5 Great Reasons to Use a Mediator During Your Divorce

Divorce is difficult for all parties involved, even in cases where the parting is amicable. Emotions run high and it can be tough to talk with your ex about volatile issues like child custody and finances.

Sometimes people work with their lawyers and a mediator to reach agreeable terms, but often attorneys aren’t needed for negotiations. It all depends on what you and your partner feel is most appropriate for your unique situation.

Whether you’ve hired an attorney yet or not, here are five great reasons to give a meditator a try during your divorce:

  1. It’s more affordable. Meditation can cost much less than repeated court filings and appearances or extended hearings. Depending on the complexity of your issues, mediation can take as little as a single session.
  2. It’s private. Unlike court hearings and filings, your meditation experience is confidential. There is no public record of what goes on during your sessions.
  3. You have more control. It’s entirely possible that a court could make a ruling that no one is happy with. Judges are not intimately familiar with your situation, and may not understand what you or your partner think might be best for your family. With a mediator, you and your partner can decide what the fair terms are and how best to implement spousal support or co-parenting plans.
  4. Mediation resolves many issues. You can use mediation to iron out any number of conflicts from child custody and support to who gets the brass fireplace set. Your mediator doesn’t make decisions for you, but guides you both in making ones yourselves, whatever the issue!
  5. Mediation helps resolve future conflicts. You can both use the tips and techniques you’ve learned in mediation to become better communicators. This can make dealing with your partner much easier over the long run.